Who did you have to be in order to be loved? The answer to that question became the first story you ever told about yourself.

From the author of the instant New York Times bestseller It Begins with You comes a transformative roadmap to rewriting your story and healing the most important relationship you will ever have: the one you have with yourself.

How has your childhood impacted your adult romantic relationships? Who is the villain in your story that you could never forgive? Whether you were told you were “difficult,” or you carried extra responsibilities as the eldest child, or you felt the heat of the spotlight as the golden child, your childhood conditioning has shaped your identity, your beliefs, and your patterns. The truth is our adult romantic relationships will play out the drama of our childhoods until we investigate and rewrite our story.

In this book, Jillian Turecki offers a powerful framework for understanding how the story you absorbed about who you are became the foundation of your self-worth—and how that story may now be keeping you stuck. Turecki opens up about her own history as the subject of her father’s bestselling, Oprah-endorsed self-help book, The Difficult Child. Through this personal journey from “difficult” daughter to self-actualized woman, she guides us through the challenging but necessary work of investigating the unfinished business we have with our past, breaking painful patterns, and learning to build healthy, secure relationships. Turecki will teach you how to:

Rewrite the disempowering narratives of your past to fundamentally alter your (romantic) destiny.
Truly forgive yourself and others and finally let go of the painful stories that haunt you
Overcome the need for your parents’ approval so that you can choose yourself and live the life you were meant to live
Transform what made your childhood difficult into your greatest sources of personal power.
Heal generational patterns by modeling self-worth and self-love to your own children.
Feel more safe and secure inside yourself and in relationships

Combining a shocking personal narrative, powerful case studies from twenty years of Jillian’s work as a teacher and coach, and relational psychology, this book demonstrates how to rewrite the scripts that are holding you back and finally feel the freedom to be—and be loved for—who you truly are.

Books by Jillian Turecki